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We Need to Talk About Why the Rob Kardashian/Blac Chyna Situation is Not Okay

By Emma Giordano--If you’ve been on the internet today, you’ve probably heard about the Rob Kardashian/Blac Chyna situation. While we won’t be sharing explicit details or photos from this ongoing story, we do need to address why this behavior is unacceptable.

First of all, we need to stop calling this “drama.”

Releasing private photos and a personal cell phone number is not “exposing” someone. This is much more than just calling someone out for being unfaithful. This is revenge porn and doxing and it promotes dangerous behavior. According to cybercivilrights.org, over 38 states have laws against revenge porn, and doxing falls under various state laws regarding cyberbullying or harassment. These are serious, harmful offenses and we should not be congratulating a man on “stirring tea” when he may be creating irreparable damage for this woman as well as the thousands of other women who have been affected by similar treatment.

Second, there is never an excuse for slut-shaming and body-shaming.

Allegations aside, sharing nude photos and engaging in hateful responses are NEVER okay. The language circling the internet in regards to these photos enforces harmful double standards that women should be shamed for sexual promiscuity whereas men should be praised. A woman’s sexual decisions are none of our business, even when claims are laid out online. Whether or not cheating and unfaithfulness are involved, the sharing of these photos and the commentary on a woman’s sex life are never warranted. Additionally, it’s never okay to shame a woman for her body. It is tasteless to praise a woman for her beauty when she is compliant with your needs and desires, but shame her for her appearance when she does not do as you please. We do not get to pick and choose when women are allowed to express their sexuality or when women should feel good about their bodies. Especially on a platform with millions of people watching, perpetuation of this harmful behavior should never be condoned.

Third, public slut-shaming affects more than the current victim.

A study conducted by Cyber Civil Rights Initiative found that 23% of people who report to have sent nude photos are victims of revenge porn. Of that 23%, 93% of them experienced severe emotional distress, some were even affected by the event in their professional life or contemplated suicide. These incidents are not isolated, and especially when they are this publicized, they can be very triggering to victims of revenge porn in the past. Seeing a man being congratulated for “exposing” a woman by sharing her nude photos may bring back painful thoughts tied to their own experiences. The news outlets covering this story ought to be more critical in their reports and conscious of the light in which they are displaying Rob and Chyna and how their articles impact others. As well as us tuning in on the sidelines, our opinions on this situation are not warranted and it’s best to hold our tongues as to not cause more harm.

So while the number of reports on this story continues to grow, keep in mind that this story began on a foundation of revenge porn, doxing, and slut and body shaming. The behaviors and comments revolving around this situation are unacceptable, harmful, and even illegal. It is crucial that we continue to challenge these words and actions in an effort to end revenge porn and slut shaming.

If you or someone you know has been a victim of revenge porn, cybercivilrights.org has provided a list of resources at your disposal.

Additionally, you can call 884-878-2274 if you are a victim of nonconsensual pornography.

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